Another exercise in my effort to try to figure out what, exactly, is going on in the mind of the stooge in the White House, as well as the minds of those who surround him and the citizens who continue to support him. I came upon this article that seems to describe the relationship fairly well, unfortunately. If I were a more responsible writer, I would simply post the article I found and let you decide for yourselves if you see how many of the signs are appropriate to your picture of the current President. But I’m not that responsible; I am going to add my own indications of how I see him–the bold or italicized sections are my addition….
11 Signs You May Be Dating A Sociopath
By Macrina Cooper-White
Could that amazing new person you or a loved one is dating actually be a sociopath? It’s not as far-fetched as you might imagine. Roughly one in 25 Americans is a sociopath, according to Harvard psychologist Dr. Martha Stout, author of The Sociopath Next Door.
Of course, not all sociopaths are dangerous criminals. But they certainly can make life difficult, given that the defining characteristic of sociopathy is antisocial behavior.
Here are 11 RED FLAGS to look out for:
RED FLAG #1. Having an oversized ego. (Well, this is kind of a no-brainer…)
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-V) notes that sociopaths have an inflated sense of self. They are narcissists to the extreme, with a huge sense of entitlement, Dr. Seth Meyers, a clinical psychologist with the L.A. County Department of Mental Health, wrote for Psychology Today. They tend to blame others for their own failures.
RED FLAG #2. Lying and exhibiting manipulative behavior. (I go back and forth between believing he is a pathological liar, has dementia, or is just not very bright. Here’s the professional’s argument for the liar thing)
Sociopaths use deceit and manipulation on a regular basis. Why? “Lying for the sake of lying. Lying just to see whether you can trick people. And sometimes telling larger lies to get larger effects,” Dr. Stout told Interview Magazine.
RED FLAG #3. Exhibiting a lack of empathy. (That has become ever clearer as his administration continues; his “gutting” of health care insurance coverage, his willingness to negate any environmental regulations and destroy sacred tribal lands are just two of the hundreds of other indicators that this man has NO empathy for others.)
“They don’t really have the meaningful emotional inner worlds that most people have and perhaps because of that they can’t really imagine or feel the emotional worlds of other people,” M. E. Thomas, a diagnosed sociopath and author of Confessions Of A Sociopath, told NPR. “It’s very foreign to them.”
RED FLAG #4. Showing a lack of remorse or shame. (Have you ever heard him admit that he was wrong? Or apologize for ANYTHING?)
The DSM-V entry on antisocial personality disorder indicates that sociopaths lack remorse, guilt or shame.
RED FLAG #5. Staying eerily calm in scary or dangerous situations. (Of course, we don’t have much access to this kind of information, so we might be able to gloss quickly over this one. But I don’t like the image I get of how calm he would at least pretend to be just before he pushes “that” button.)
A sociopath might not be anxious following a car accident, for instance, M.E. Thomas said. And experiments have shown that while normal people show fear when they see disturbing images or are threatened with electric shocks, sociopaths tend not to.
RED FLAG #6. Behaving irresponsibly or with extreme impulsivity. (Leaked information to Russia from Israel, anyone? Making fun of a disabled reporter during a campaign rally? Suddenly firing the director of the FBI “because he is President”and therefore allowed to do it.)
Sociopaths bounce from goal to goal, and act on the spur of the moment, according to the DSM. They can be irresponsible when it comes to their finances and their obligations to other people.
RED FLAG #7. Having few friends.
Sociopaths tend not to have friends—not real ones, anyway. “Sociopaths don’t want friends, unless they need them. Or all of their friends are superficially connected with them, friends by association,” psychotherapist Ross Rosenberg, author of the Human Magnet Syndrome, told The Huffington Post.
RED FLAG #8. Being charming—but only superfically. (Another obvious one…think of all of the charm and promises he made to the country before he was elected. Now think of how many of those promises he’s kept, and the violent reaction he has to journalists who try to ask him about any of them.)
Sociopaths can be very charismatic and friendly — because they know it will help them get what they want. “They are expert con artists and always have a secret agenda,” Rosenberg said. “People are so amazed when they find that someone is a sociopath because they’re so amazingly effective at blending in. They’re masters of disguise. Their main tool to keep them from being discovered is a creation of an outer personality.”
As M.E. Thomas described in a post for Psychology Today: “You would like me if you met me. I have the kind of smile that is common among television show characters and rare in real life, perfect in its sparkly teeth dimensions and ability to express pleasant invitation.”
RED FLAG #9. Living by the “pleasure principle.” (Mara Lago, Trump Towers with gilded ceilings and over-the -top luxury in all of his many residences. And just HAVING many residences!)
“If it feels good and they are able to avoid consequences, they will do it! They live their life in the fast lane — to the extreme — seeking stimulation, excitement and pleasure from wherever they can get it,” Rosenberg wrote in Human Magnet Syndrome.
RED FLAG #10. Showing disregard for societal norms. (Grabbing women by their private parts, not releasing his tax information, allegedly colluding with Russian spies and not revealing it, and deciding that the presidency is his ticket to do anything he wants.
They break rules and laws because they don’t believe society’s rules apply to them, psychiatrist Dr. Dale Archer wrote in a blog on Psychology Today.
RED FLAG #11. Having “intense” eyes. (Hmmm…I just sort of see him using his gaze as an intimidation technique when dealing with others…refusing to acknowledge the presence of Angela Merkle, for example, or using his famous violent handshake that he uses to try to intimidate others.)
Sociopaths have no problem with maintaining uninterrupted eye contact. “Our failure to look away politely is also perceived as being aggressive or seductive,” M.E. Thomas wrote for Psychology Today.
For me, the saddest part of this goon’s relationship with his supporters is that by using typical abusive partner’s tried and true techniques to manipulate and deceive them– doing something wrong, getting called out for it, and then blaming others or circumstances, claiming he was a victim to illicit sympathy from them. (Think–O.J. Simpson on steroids!) The sad truth is that people caught up in abusive relationships are often more afraid of the consequences if they should leave than staying with their abuser. That, perhaps, explains his supporters have dug in their heels and vocally supporting him publicly. Just like a woman who is living with a violent and abusive partner, leaving is often not an option until the level of misery or injury is greater than they can bear. How long will we tolerate the abuse Donald Trump inflicts upon us?